General
- Does he have the qualities that you are looking for [in a future husband]?
- Would he make good mate for you?
- Is he intending to explore your intellect, your sagacity, or who you really are?
- Who or what is leading or motivating him? If it is not God it's something or someone else? Money? Sex? Himself? His mother? etc.
- Does he have good character?
- Does his words match his actions?
- Does he place God before anyone? Does he put God first in his life?
- Does he strive to please and glorify God? How much time does he give God?
- How does he relate to others?
Authorities
- How does he respond to people in authority?
Parents
- Does he respect his mother?
- How does he relate to his parents?
- The Opposite Sex
- What are his actions toward members of the opposite sex?
- What is his attitude toward the women in general?
- Companions
- How do his friends act? What do they value?
- Is he pursuing relationships with people who encourage him to do positive things? Or do they drag him down?
Personal Discipline
- Does he fill free time with mindless hours in front of the TV? (The way a person spends their leisure time tells us what they value)
- Does he cultivate his mind and build relationships, or does he run to the next distraction?
Money
- Is he caught up in clothing, cars, and other material things? Does he wear all his assets? Does he responsibly invest or save his money?
- What is his attitude about your money and your career?
His Body
- How does he dress? What does his clothing say about his heart?
- Does he care for his body?
Attitude
- Is he working to overcome habits?
- Is he being conformed to today’s culture, or does he push against it, seeking to be transformed into Christ's image?
A Humble Attitude?
- Does he place the needs of others before his own? Does he refuse to be selfish?
- How does he respond when conflict arises?
- Is he quick to blame the other party humble enough to share blame or seek a resolution?
- Does he give more than he takes?
- Is he kind with his words AND actions?
An Industrious Attitude?
- What is the attitude with which he approaches work?
- Is he hard-working?
An Attitude of Contentment and Hopefulness?
- Does he have a complaint or praise on his lips?
- Does he nitpick at the faults of other or consistently encourage?
- Does he view his circumstances with a spirit of hopelessness, or does he remain confident of God's faithfulness? etc.
No one is perfect, but answering these questions helps one distinguish the difference between the behavior of a Righteous man and the behavior of Player. One can best get the answers to these questions by observing, and not calling attention to, his bahavior. By allowing him to be himself, you'll discover the real him. One can also gently and carefully weave some of these questions into several conversations over a period of time. Also ask yourself these questions as well. In order to attract the person you want to be with you must become the person you want to be with. If you want a righteous man you must be a righteous woman. |
